Is your money mindset sabotaging you from earning more?

'Money doesn’t grow on trees’

‘We don’t have enough money’

‘Money is the root of all evil’

‘Rich people are greedy’

‘You have to work really hard to earn lots of money’

Do any of these sound familiar or better yet did you hear this growing up? If you did then keep reading as these phrases would have hugely conditioned your beliefs around money.

Money, the last taboo subject!! We still don’t talk openly about this subject and there is a stigma around discussing our own money situations. Is it any wonder that we are raising children (ourselves included) as being money adverse? Fearful of talking about or asking for our worth when it comes to money? We are scared of it, this secret topic that is never openly discussed at the dinner table. In our household the only time it was ever talked about as children was when we were in a difficult situation and I thought the bank was going to put my parents in jail. And I wonder why I am averse to money after that?

I feel so strongly that this topic needs to be more openly discussed because so many of us develop negative beliefs and conditioning around money that keep us in a place of lack. As wellness entrepreneurs, we work in an industry that is very altruist and many of my clients have expressed guilt for charging their worth or they have had clients that expect them to do this work for next to nothing.

This blog is about helping you to unearth those beliefs you have and understand it isn’t about your situation a lot of the time it is about you sabotaging yourself in earning more money because of what more money on a subconscious level means. Let’s address our money stories and change them so they serve us in a more positive way.

I started focusing on this as a topic with clients after delving into my own stories a few years ago. After leaving my corporate job I have worked as a personal trainer and life coach and during that time really struggled to feel secure with the money I earned. I lived month to month and a lot of the time with the help of my partner and my savings. It was far from an ideal situation and one that I felt I needed to address because I was determined to make my life as a wellness entrepreneur work! It wasn’t like I wasn’t working hard and doing all the ‘right’ things.

Over the last few years, I have read numerous books, done workshops, courses and 1:1 sessions with industry professionals about this topic specifically. Here are a few ways to get started in uncovering the stories, beliefs and conditioning you have around money and how they might be holding you back.

What does money mean to you?

What will having enough money mean for you? How will you feel? For me it means security.

What did you hear growing up about money?

Growing up we hear many things said about money. List the ones that you can remember whether they were said by family, friends, society, the economy, list everything!

These phrases usually start to form the foundations of our beliefs about money and we carry them subconsciously or otherwise through our lives.

What did you see or experience growing up around money?

What was your upbringing like with money?

Did you experience any traumatic stories with money? My parents declared bankruptcy when I was 8-9 and it has had a significant impact on my beliefs around not succeed as an entrepreneur. What are your stories that impact you?

If you are in debt then what does spending give you?

Does buying nice things makes you feel a certain way? Or maybe you travel and put everything on your card? Explore what it gives you and then compare it to your stories above to see if there is any correlation.

I hope this has helped you on your journey in uncovering your money mindset. If you want to work on your money mindset and start creating a more positive beneficial one then please get in contact at contactus@kimberleybarnardcoaching.com

Here are just a few books that I have read and found really helpful. They are light-hearted and insightful.

Get Rich, Lucky Bitch - Denise Duffield-Thomas

Rich Dad, Poor Dad: What the Rich Teach Their Kids About Money - Robert Kiyosaki

You are a Badass at Making Money- Jen Sincero

Kimberley Barnard